Let’s talk resolutions…
As I was going through the motions of what 2018 was going to look like for me, I had to force myself to reminisce on what went right and what I consider went wrong in 2017. I had to really think about what my resolution would be and I realized that in order for you to successfully make the change, you must start with the structure.
Let’s take a painting as an example. Imagine that you are the painting that was once an empty canvas before you were formed into a beautiful piece of artwork. We must recognize that a painting cannot and will never be changed; it will always remain the same. However, what surrounds a painting? A frame.
The only way to successfully make your life better is by changing the frame of your painting and moving its exposure to a different gallery so that you are seen in a different light, exposed to different people. Only once you take life into your own hands can you truly begin to see and feel the difference.
We were all born with certain strengths and weaknesses, and our job is to hone our strengths so that we can turn our weaknesses into positive assets. You need to start living your life the way that you want to live it. Find the places in which you are the least comfortable and push yourself to not only survive, but absolutely thrive in them! This is the process of turning your weakness into a positive asset. This will ultimately give you a different perception of who you are and what you can become. The possibilities are infinite.
Once you have realized your potential and have grown into this accomplished figure who will no doubt take the world by storm, that’s when the tough part starts. But if you are consistent and maintain a certain “tunnel vision” and always see your goals through to the end, then in reality it won’t be so difficult after all. You’ll realize that with only a little bit of elbow grease, absolutely anything is truly achievable. Putting in that work, grinding away and focusing on the passions that make you who you are and all of your bad habits will gradually go away. Even if you don’t notice the subtle change, you can be sure that everyone else will.
*Author’s note: I was in the process of writing this blog piece when I found out that a close friend of mine had passed away. I had to drop everything that I was doing in order to attend the funeral. It was pouring rain while I was standing there waiting for the body to arrive, as people from all over were beginning to file in for the eulogy ceremony. I had realized then that I was one of the last people to see him. I couldn’t cry for some reason but I started to think about what I can learn from such a tragedy, and I realized that life is a gift and you only get one shot, one at bat and we have to make the most of it, because it can be taken from us in the blink of an eye.
Instead of pouting and beating yourself up over what you could or could not have done, just keep in mind that the past is the past. You must live your life without looking behind you. Although this is not an easy thing to do, something I know first hand, it is one of the most important pieces of advice that I have received time and time again.
My friend lived a full life and was a gentle and kind soul. He was incredibly talented and intelligent. We shared a love for music and so much more. He was a good man who was always there when I needed him, picking me up when I was down. As I woke up the next morning to finish this piece it had finally occurred to me what my new year's resolution is: to do whatever I can to see things through to the end and try to achieve every aspect of my life with the fullest of intentions.
His name was Noach and he was 23 years of age. “Baruch Dayan Haemet” my friend. You will be sorely missed.